Dan Savage

I am a 45-year-old femme-presenting genderqueer AFAB person. When I have romantic relationships with cis het men, I’ve noticed two general types: They either enjoy sex and prioritize pleasure and making things fun for their partners and themselves, but ma... See more

1. What if I’m turned on by my own trauma? What do I do with this? You do therapy with it. And then after you’ve worked through your trauma with the help of your therapist (which includes unpacking your feelings about being turned on by your trauma), you ... See more

No Struggle Session today because it’s Christmas and I’m in a sex dungeon in Europe — no, wait: I’m doing wholesome things with family. (I’m literally baking a cake right now.) But I’ve got an interesting AQFARTIFROLOTGOMIITC for anyone who isn’t celebrat... See more

I’m a 28-year-old gay man who isn’t going home for Christmas for the first time in my life. I’ve been out since I was fourteen and my family has been amazingly supportive, and they love my boyfriend of four years. (They hated my first and third boyfriends... See more

This year, HUMP! did two big things, so big your ex would absolutely be jealous. We celebrated our 20th anniversary and wrapped up another unforgettable festival season fueled by brave filmmakers, curious audiences, and more than a few collective gasps. A... See more